From GIRL… to WOMAN.
Now this post, is going to be a funny one for me to write. Often when I am seen by someone I have seen for over 7/8 years, they are shocked to see what I look like now! LOL, there is a fair reasoning to this, really there is. Last night, I was with Lesedi, and she asked me, “how did you change?” from being a Tomboy to becoming such a “girly girl”.
Fair, I have heard this question MANY, MANNNYYY times!! For some reason I didn’t feel that it would be an interesting topic to share on my blog, but with so many similar questions, and Lesedi asking me to blog about it, I caved in!
Yes, i was a PURE and TRUE tomboy!!! Of note!
From the sneakers, to the bandanas (I had them in every colour!), to the soccer T shirts, and jeans. ALL DAY EVERY DAY! I owned no pairs of heels until my Matric Dance in the final Year of high school. Until the point, I knew nothing of makeup, eyeliner, powder, foundation! NOTHING!!
These pictures are soooo hard for me to look at!!! I CRINGE i swear! LOL!
I was forever in sweats, sneakers and jeans. New nothing of makeup, and NOTHING of heels and such. Even in varsity my friends knew, it was jeans and sweats! and the “JT-ONE” sports bras! I was a “boy” like that! That was ME, thats how I was comfortable.
Even with braids, look at my brows? My skin?! OMG! I cannot deal right now!!! LOL
This was until my friend, Dimpho, had a little conversation with me, and we went shopping for more “feminine” products, starting with a good bra! That’s when it ALLLLL changed!!!
(those sunglasses make me look like a man! LOL)
MAKEUP? WONDERBRAS? HEELS? HUH??!
This was a daunting period for me, changing, experimenting, and not really liking the change, but at the same time, willing to try. I opened my mind to it. Heels, I started small, I wasn’t trying to fall flat on my face (and I actually did, a NUMBER OF TIMES!!!).
Makeup- I tried out shades myself in the shops, was too shy to ask for assistance and tried it myself, took it home myself, and again, A NUMBER of times, it was either too light, or too dark!!! This struggle though! Lipsticks I stayed FAR AWAY from, only really started experimenting with lipsticks in my working career, before then, I was PERFECTLY fine with a good “Labello” LOL.
I laugh as I type this because I remember every single one of those moments where I dared to be different, to do things how I wanted to do them! I didn’t care (hell, who would tell me, I wore PANTS to my Matric Dance!).
At some point, it got to a stage where I felt like a boy, honestly… I didn’t like how overly different I looked to my friends who would wear sandals, nice earrings and not just studs like me. I wanted to look like a “FEMALE”… (all tomboys can relate to this!).
I tried to wear more skirts and dresses…
Tried to do my hair a lot more…!!
Tried to look, more “feminine”… I use this word loosely, because your “look” doesn’t determine your femininity…
After MANY MANY trials and errors…. i noticed that I liked the way I looked in skirts and dresses, I got complimented in them…
Then THIS happened…
I developed a taste, for what looks good on me, and I ran with that.
Don’t get me wrong, jeans are still my NUMBER 1 go to look! I just make them look more feminine.
Then there are days where I’ll add some “height” 🙂
Look, femininity is NOT determined by what you wear, absolutely not. Some women, still feel like women, even in flats, sneakers, track pants, jeans, bandanas with no makeup. This is just MY story. MY transition. Frankly, I couldn’t be happier with it. I still have my old traits in me. I STILL prefer jeans and joggers to anything else, but being able to adapt to any occasion, any situation (eg- high tea, lunch with friends, weddings, picnics) by just looking in my closet and NOT having to go out and buy something, is what I’ve appreciated the most about this transition.
I couldn’t have wished that it would go any other way, NOPE. I’m glad that this was the route that I took.
Of course the makeup made it tons better. Makeup shouldn’t TRANSFORM or CHANGE you, it should purely “enhance” the features you already have. I was afraid of makeup, afraid that I’d be referred to a plastic, and and and, just for wearing makeup. Now I realise, that no, I enjoy wearing makeup, and I shouldn’t have to prove that to anyone. Much like a woman who DOESN’T enjoy wearing makeup, shouldn’t have to prove herself either.
It works out differently for every woman, and there is nothing wrong in that. It may seem cliche, but as long as you are comfortable what else should matter? Its your body, your hair, your face, your feet, everything! The least you should be able to do is have a say in what works or doesn’t work for you.
I also feel like this is a lifelong journey, that will continue to change. Your look will change, your hair might change, your likes might change. It might just only be the beginning for you. 🙂 Lots still to come!!
Due to this journey, I LOVE THE WOMAN I HAVE BECOME…
What about your journey to womanhood stands out for you?
Let me know! Hope you enjoyed this one! 🙂
Until the next one,
Live in Light and Love ❤