Far often we forget in order to live the best quality of life, we need to learn to FIRST take care of ourselves, to learn to love ourselves, and not to depend on others to validate us, or make us feel better about ourselves.
This morning, as I was getting ready to come to work, and staring at myself in the mirror, applying makeup, I realized that FAR too often we (women) love to find validation from elsewhere other than ourselves. WHY?
Why aren’t you the ONLY person that is supposed to be happy with yourself and love yourself? Why do you need someone else to justify that for you?
One of the hardest journeys in life, is the one where you have to learn to LOVE YOURSELF. It really isn’t easy, especially when you are a woman. Not at all.
We look at ourselves every morning in the mirror and there is always SOMETHING, some flaw that makes us secretly “hate” ourselves. Your teeth, your nose, your butt, your ears, your eyes…. there is always something. So this makes this “loving yourself truthfully” journey VERY difficult.
However, it’s NOT impossible.
It’s work. Hard work.
- Surround yourself with people who encourage you, who support you.
- Learn from people who disappoint you. dont hate them. Learn a lesson from it.
- Spot, within yourself, the things you need to change, and change them
- STOP procrastinating, do it.
- You are WORTHY, tell yourself EVERYDAY.
- You deserve happiness. Everyone does, this INCLUDES you.
- Spend time with those you love, people who bring out the best in you.
- Acknowledge your good days, these are good memories to remember in the future.
- Trust. I know its difficult, but try.
- Love, like you have never been hurt before. Best way to live your life.
I read this piece about a year ago, and its still with me now, and I just thought I’d share it with you:
“Being classy is NOT about being stuck up, but more so about having a
simply unique style that will never be forgotten. To be classy is to have
respect; respect for others, respect for elders, and most of all respect for
Don’t listen to people who tell you what to do. Listen to people who
encourage you to do what you know in your heart is right. Sometimes there are
things in life that aren’t meant to stay. Sometimes change may not be what we
want. Sometimes change is what we need. Embrace the struggle and let it make
you stronger. It won’t last forever. You’re worthy of it all. You just have to
believe you are! Some people are brought into your life to be mirrors, to show
you behaviors and habits that need to change. We often just accept the things
that we like, and complain a lot about the things that we don’t like. But if we
could, like, intensely dwell on the really great things in life the way we
intensely dwell on the negative things in life; I think that would be
fantastic. Bad habits cause failure. Identify the habits holding you back and
make a decision to crush them. The mentally tough mind is like a flourishing
garden, and bad habits are the weeds that suffocate it. Watering the flowers
without killing the weeds is an act of self-delusion. You are never too busy to
take time out of your day for those who matter most. You can always make time.
The moment you feel like you have to prove your worth to someone is the
moment to absolutely and utterly walk away.A good relationship is worth the
wait. Be thankful for everybody in your life, good and bad, past and present.
They all made you the person that you are today. Don’t confuse your path with
your destination, just because it’s stormy now, doesn’t mean you aren’t headed
for sunshine. Trust is a fragile thing. Once earned, it affords us tremendous
freedom. But once trust is lost, it can be impossible to recover. Of course the
truth is, we never know who we can trust. Those we’re closest to can betray us,
and total strangers can come to our rescue. In the end, most people decide to
trust only themselves. It really is the simplest way to keep from getting
Once in a while, amidst all your bad days, you’ll have a good day. A
great day even. Make sure you remember those days. Keep them safely in your
pockets, maybe even a jar on your desk because you need to know that there are
and will be better days. You need to remember how on those days you felt warm
inside, like you’ve just drunk a hot cup of tea; like a small fire was ignited
inside of you. Hold on to that warmth. And never let it go. Be
selective in your battles, sometimes peace is better than being right.
Focus on your blessings, not your misfortunes. Focus on your strengths,
not your weaknesses. Relax and let life come to you.”
Relax. You will get there. ❤
Til the next one.
Live in Light and Love ❤